Victims across the world have been programmed that the only way to "take the power back from the suspect" is to demand justice.. preferably swift justice.. We in America have tuned in to shows such as CSI and Law & Order and expect a guilty suspect to be convicted, sentenced, wrapped in a pretty bow, and shipped away. Sometimes when events such as the death of Trayvon Martin occur, we demand immediate justice because that is the only seemingly fair thing to do. Fairness, equality, justice....
Since being a victim goes hand in hand with demanding justice, when this justice is not delivered or if it is never seen in a life time.. those who are victimized can fall into a trap of making everyone in their life a suspect of some kind. This is because the "score" was never settled. This makes everyone they meet a prolific offender of some kind who is out to destroy, take advantage, manipulate, intimidate, and abuse.
Zero tolerance is then enforced. There is no room for excuses, alibi's, confessions, and mistakes. The Hatfields and McCoys are a perfect example of what happens when forgiveness between a fault is no option and swift justice is pursued at any cost. 9 family members were murdered to "right a wrong". What happens is we become "abusers" and instead of breaking the cycle, we change our methods of operation that are camouflaged as a crusade of truth but in reality do as much damage as has been done to us.
The Bible says to "put other's interest before our own" (Phillipians 2:4), "to be tolerant with one another and forgive whenever anyone of you has a complaint against someone else" (Colossians 3:13), and to "overlook an offense" as it destroys friendships (Prov 17:9). This does not mean "failure to report" a serious crime. It just means do not treat everyone in your life like your initial abuser because they are not.
Some victims walk through life never seeing a conviction and it destroys them. Healing can never truly occur because they demand that everyone from now on obtains immediate punishment for even the smallest white lie. Kids, husbands, friends, neighbors, and everyone they meet whether on the road or in a store line pays the price. The victim puts on a black robe without taking the classes. The victim strikes the gavel without hearing both sides. The victim condemns and sentences without listening to the alibi.
Do not think healing will come when you obtain the power to judge. Healing comes when you decide to let go of the controls... and let God settle the score.
"He did not retaliate when he was insulted, nor threaten revenge when he suffered. He left his case in the hands of God, who always judges fairly." (1 Peter 2:23)
Meet your healer
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mxqfDs-64I0
Since being a victim goes hand in hand with demanding justice, when this justice is not delivered or if it is never seen in a life time.. those who are victimized can fall into a trap of making everyone in their life a suspect of some kind. This is because the "score" was never settled. This makes everyone they meet a prolific offender of some kind who is out to destroy, take advantage, manipulate, intimidate, and abuse.
Zero tolerance is then enforced. There is no room for excuses, alibi's, confessions, and mistakes. The Hatfields and McCoys are a perfect example of what happens when forgiveness between a fault is no option and swift justice is pursued at any cost. 9 family members were murdered to "right a wrong". What happens is we become "abusers" and instead of breaking the cycle, we change our methods of operation that are camouflaged as a crusade of truth but in reality do as much damage as has been done to us.
The Bible says to "put other's interest before our own" (Phillipians 2:4), "to be tolerant with one another and forgive whenever anyone of you has a complaint against someone else" (Colossians 3:13), and to "overlook an offense" as it destroys friendships (Prov 17:9). This does not mean "failure to report" a serious crime. It just means do not treat everyone in your life like your initial abuser because they are not.
Some victims walk through life never seeing a conviction and it destroys them. Healing can never truly occur because they demand that everyone from now on obtains immediate punishment for even the smallest white lie. Kids, husbands, friends, neighbors, and everyone they meet whether on the road or in a store line pays the price. The victim puts on a black robe without taking the classes. The victim strikes the gavel without hearing both sides. The victim condemns and sentences without listening to the alibi.
Do not think healing will come when you obtain the power to judge. Healing comes when you decide to let go of the controls... and let God settle the score.
"He did not retaliate when he was insulted, nor threaten revenge when he suffered. He left his case in the hands of God, who always judges fairly." (1 Peter 2:23)
Meet your healer
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mxqfDs-64I0
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