Love is Not Rude

"If love is the greatest thing you can do, then loving with all you are is the greatest expresion you could ever make". (The Love Dare)...We are wired from birth to love, but many of us have "went all in", only to lose everything. So.. we fold... Over the years, the idea of love has become a Disney fairytale whose odds are as achievable as winning the powerball. We have become bitter at loving. We invest our "love" in people that are complacent and unthankful which catapults us into a self-made world of misery and bitterness. We have been burnt and the reflection of our hearts made manifest to all those around us screams of emptiness.

Our love has become rude because of two things. We are ignorant of our rudeness or to selfish to care. But the thing is... love is not rude... Being rude in love includes embarassing and irritating comments, a foul mouth, sarcatic statements, and creating an unpleasant environment. It takes two... always... but remember "genuine love... minds its manners" (the love dare)...

Some relationships need some fresh air... The more the sarcastic comments are made... the faster the heart runs... a never-ending cycle of chaos and brokeness... "When you allow love to change your behavior - even in the smallest of ways- you restore an atmostphere of honor to your relationship" (the love dare).

Our etiquette at home differs so much from that at work and with a stranger... we are kind and guard our tongues... "yet if you dare to love, you'll also want to give your best... to your own" (the Love Dare). See, loving.. is the absolute greatest thing we can offer... It is so powerful... and yet we sit next to the one we love day in and day out... on a sofa.. in a car... in the garage... and our comments sear thru their hearts... our actions rip them to shreds... we have become bullies... impossible to please... and the environment is mentally abusive in all forms of the word...

Many of us fail to realize how unpleasant we are to live with... "if your thinking that your not the one who needs work in this area, you're likely suffering from a bad case of ignorance, with a secondary condition of selfishness (the love dare). Remember that love... builds up... not destroys... Honor needs to replace disgust...

We need to practice love... and it takes alot of practice... I bumped into two women in their 50's and I said... "i bet you have it all figured out now" to which they replied "not a chance"... We will grow old... with no clue how to fix our failure to love...our rudeness... if we dont take the time to ask the one we love... what makes them uncomfortable and irritated and not do anything about it.. we are a dripping faucet... and if we dont fix it... we will damage everything we own....

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Anonymous said…
Good stuff girl. I think when you can retire you should move to our home in the mountains and start writing books.
nate

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