How many of us deal on a day to day basic with crazy makers? These are the people who are constantly "pushing our buttons". They are co-workers, neighbors, family, and even friends. These #crazymakers have the power to steal the happiness from our lives almost instantaneously. Studies have shown that the number one predictor of happiness is the relationships in your life.
We cannot change the crazy makers in our life, but we CAN change our attitudes. Proverbs 16:32 says "It is better to be patient than powerful; it is better to have self-control than to conquer a city". Proverbs 12:16 says "A fool is quick-tempered, but a wise person stays calm when insulted".
We all express anger in 4 different ways. One type are the "machine guns". These people are very expressive, they cuss, are highly controlling, and explode at a moment's notice. The myth to them is that their "eruption" of anger is healthy as they will not keep everything built in. The problem is that you actually produce a factory of anger. Anytime you lose your temper, you LOSE.
Another expression of anger is the "Mutes". These people clam up. They have "crockpot anger" and hold on to this anger for some time which many times makes them sick.
A third type of expressed anger is the "Martyrs". These are the people who use words such as "I should have.. ", "I ought to of..", "I must..". They are constantly creating "pity parties" and control the entire group by their "victim" mentality.
The fourth type of expressed anger is the "Manipulators". These are the people who constantly pick at you. They actually do not have the courage to tell you how they feel and instead sabotage the relationship. These people are more likely to struggle with depression which really is all about their anger frozen rage.
Now you are not born with this type of anger. It is a learned behavior. It is treatable, but YOU have to begin controlling it. When you deal with these behaviors, calculate the cost of your anger. Is it worth ruining a relationship?
Look PAST their words to their pain. Proverbs 19:11 "A man's wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense". The hardest thing to do is THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK. "A fool gives full vent to anger, but a wise person quietly holds it back".
This week, make it your mission to handle #crazymakers with a humble spirit and a silent mouth. Speak less.... and you'll feel MORE.
For additional information, see Rick Warren's Sermon at this link. http://saddleback.com/internetcampus/live/
We cannot change the crazy makers in our life, but we CAN change our attitudes. Proverbs 16:32 says "It is better to be patient than powerful; it is better to have self-control than to conquer a city". Proverbs 12:16 says "A fool is quick-tempered, but a wise person stays calm when insulted".
We all express anger in 4 different ways. One type are the "machine guns". These people are very expressive, they cuss, are highly controlling, and explode at a moment's notice. The myth to them is that their "eruption" of anger is healthy as they will not keep everything built in. The problem is that you actually produce a factory of anger. Anytime you lose your temper, you LOSE.
Another expression of anger is the "Mutes". These people clam up. They have "crockpot anger" and hold on to this anger for some time which many times makes them sick.
A third type of expressed anger is the "Martyrs". These are the people who use words such as "I should have.. ", "I ought to of..", "I must..". They are constantly creating "pity parties" and control the entire group by their "victim" mentality.
The fourth type of expressed anger is the "Manipulators". These are the people who constantly pick at you. They actually do not have the courage to tell you how they feel and instead sabotage the relationship. These people are more likely to struggle with depression which really is all about their anger frozen rage.
Now you are not born with this type of anger. It is a learned behavior. It is treatable, but YOU have to begin controlling it. When you deal with these behaviors, calculate the cost of your anger. Is it worth ruining a relationship?
Look PAST their words to their pain. Proverbs 19:11 "A man's wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense". The hardest thing to do is THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK. "A fool gives full vent to anger, but a wise person quietly holds it back".
This week, make it your mission to handle #crazymakers with a humble spirit and a silent mouth. Speak less.... and you'll feel MORE.
For additional information, see Rick Warren's Sermon at this link. http://saddleback.com/internetcampus/live/
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