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Everyone's Rude...But Me...

An old Proverb claims that even a greeting "at the wrong time", such as in the early morning, can be qualified as rude... And so goes the lesson for today... That many of us struggle in our lives with the "chains of rudeness"... The Love Dare lists 2 reasons why people are rude and they are good ones... Ignorance... and selfishness...

Many of us would swear that the crux of problems in a relationship is the "tone" of another... But what if, by chance, it was "OUR TONE" that is the problem... I have heard many people say to me in dealing with rocky relationships that the fault lies not with them, but with their spouse or friend or coworker... But usually what that means is that they have a problem with ignorance and a secondary condition of selfishness...

Here is how the Bible describes it "A constant dripping on a rainy day and a cranky woman are much alike! You can do no more to stop her complaints than you can stop the wind or hold onto anything with oil-slick hands". Proverbs 27:15-16. Are we like the dripping water? Do we complain and "nag" constantly? Do we ever hold our tongue? Are we delightful to be around or would the one we love have a better chance of survival by throwing themselves into a lion's den?

We point to everyone else constantly... We cover up our wrinkly flaws with luxurious creams and soothing oils but our rudeness is not hidden from those around us... even the most deliciously hidden actions are visible to all those that are really looking.. We scream behind closed doors... hear a knock... plant a fake smile... and treat a stranger with more respect than the one who committed their lifetime to us...

Have you ever watched "Real Housewives of Orange County"...as a viewer, it is easy to see the abundance of rudeness in relationships...There are friends with no kids telling friends with kids how to raise them... There are teens who completely disregard their parent's demands...there are wives who cripple their husbands with words of cruelty... The problem is that these families know they are being recorded at all times and are doing their very best to hold their composure...even still, the rudeness leaks and drips in ways that are evidenced to an educated audience...though we question the validity of the show, it can be a lesson on relationships...

We always think that we are innocent... we have told ourselves this for years... to make the day go by easier... but we can’t take rebuke... it’s funny because Proverbs says that "Open rebuke is better than hidden love"... But when I get it, there’s a war... why? Cause of my pride, ignorance, and selfishness... But we are to be able to handle it... get over it... stop walking away from criticism... we are quick to criticize everything and everyone but we are slow to handle it correctly...

Dare to be delightful...Are you rude? Is it really, everyone else? Does the one you love continually do things that bother you? Well, here's the challenge... ask them for 3 things that YOU do, that bother them or that cause them to be uncomfortable or irritated.. You must handle their answer without attack or justification... How do you plan to improve?

Our hearts are cold... and when the heats turned up...we fake it...stop nagging, moaning, and complaining and change you...maybe... the emptiness in your relationship is waiting on YOU for a transformation...

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