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The Love Dare... Say Nothing Negative to The One You Love Today


The problem with patience is that it does not come naturally... It is something that we must pursue daily... Patience is something you choose to have... As the Love Dare states "you choose to have a long fuse instead of a quick temper"... and "patience brings an internal calm during an external storm"...Few people are as hard to live with as an impatient person... So the question is... are we impatient?

Impatience spews out poison and creates a "warzone" in the home... and I love how the Love Dare puts it "patience stands in the doorway where anger is clawing to bust in"...

My dad used to always say to me "don't demand your rights"... and "submit your will"...it would infuriate me because I wanted so much to control and he was telling me to let go... I thought then that he was attempting to control me but what he was really teaching me was to relinquish the reigns... not to him... but to God... I would cling so tightly to what I wanted, than LOSE IT when I didn’t get what I thought I wanted... I was impatient, easily angered, loose fuse... dad understood then that I must learn to have self-control if I was to interact correctly with others, in society, in a relationship...

Impatience creates chaos and patience stops problems in their tracks... he understood this... and working with the public I have found that patience trumps impatience in every case... no exceptions... When problems arise in a relationship or in the home, the root of it deals with the lack of existing patience... Patience allows the one we love to be human... to err... to fail... to disappoint... Patience says NOTHING negative... which leads to the dare for the day...

The dare for today is to not say one negative word to the ones we love... If we find this hard throughout the day, then maybe we are naggers... impatience... selfish... controlling... and manipulative... and if we are... then maybe WE are the problem... when we radiate all these negative vibes... we are like a beautiful fluorescent light that zaps and destroys our partner, child, fellow employees, friends, every time they get close... sooner than later... we will find our cage full of dead and wasted vermin.. Without love in our lives, we have no motivation... we cannot exist on the fuel of impatience... we will run out of life, out of love, out of control...

Patience and love bites our tongues... Proverbs 14:29 "He who is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who is quick-tempered exalts folly". How do you calm a dispute? Proverbs 15:18 "The slow to anger calms a dispute".... Make room for mistakes... allow your lover to be human... love is fertile soil... "A home filled with love and patience provides the ideal atmosphere for people to bloom"... if that doesn’t exist in your home, than your kids and the love of your life will leave in bitterness... You can’t wait for them to change... You (We) must make the effort to change...

Ephesians 4 says to "live and act in a way worthy of those who have been chosen for such wonderful blessings... making allowance for each other's faults... why???? Because of your love".....vs. 29 says "Say only what is good and helpful to those you are talking to and what will give them a blessing"... The cold harsh truth is not always what will win... We must step back... armor ourselves with a mouth guard... and promote patience in a world of intolerance...

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